Thank you the kitten was my main concern :P

Things that might be helpful:

• how long y’all been together?
• what’s her relationship to her family?
• how many people and how big is the place?
• (when) do you intend to get your own place?
• what country and would you be able to afford your own place soon?
• are there specific reasons you would move in other than “she lives there and we wanna be together”?
• how far is the move from your place currently?
• can you find me an image of a kitten? I love those.

Also please don’t take Internet advice at face value on such delicate topics, we can show you what to keep in mind, but you are best suited to decide and I’m sure whatever you will decide, you’ll find your way :)

Totally agree.

Although as an outsider without any context I find it hard to “recommend” what to do, these are definitely red flags.

Also the comments about your autism are degrading and mean and your friend should know better. I wanna assume she just doesn’t know better, but that doesn’t change that she should really stop saying those things.