I’m in the US. It’s late at night.

I live in the US

We have to weigh the cost of a medical visit versus the likelihood it’s nothing

If it’s food poisoning and I overreact, that’s a 20K overreaction in the US

No

I could just get a cab

The point is the ER costs a lot

Are you sure? It could just be food poisoning. I ate a lot of candy earlier before sleep.

I want real world answer, not “always seek medical care answer.”

I can risk a 20 percent chance of death to avoid medical bills.

Yeah, I think I’ll just go back to sleep and risk death. Tired of being fuxked over by hospitals, society, everyone. If I die, so be it. Peace out.

My whole point is why shouldn’t be shocked or annoyed that a guy doesn’t want to smell like daiseys and roses.

There’s nothing wrong with being who you are. That means we should be supporting effeminate gay people, supporting trans people, but also supporting guys who don’t want to smell like girl scents.

I do not think that gender norms or toxic masculinity is the cuprit. Some dudes really don’t like dresses and do like trucks. It’s not all just because of norms.

I don’t think this is toxic masculinity or even abnormal. Some guys don’t like pink, don’t like smelling like flowers, don’t want to wear dresses. We can accept people who have different diverse preferences without looking down on people for conforming to traditional preferences.

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Also, if you have any ideas how to opt out of funding genocide, please let me know.

Taxes are taken out of my paycheck. I do not know how to ask my employer to reduce my taxes to zero.

Even if i leave the country, which would be hard to do as a somewhat poor person, the government would still imprison me if i don’t pay them.

I could become just a begger or someone who works illegally to avoid the taint.

I’ve also thought of just checking out of this world because it’s so terrible.

I’m not really sure what you think I should do instead. Is there a box to check to easily opt out of laboring for a government that thinks it owns me, that I didn’t ask to be a part of?

Just becauze I think slave labor is awful and think a tax on Chinese goods to help stop slave labor is good doesn’t mean that I support what is going on in Gaza. This planet is awful sometimes. I am mostly poor. What should I do?

I recognize it’s a genocide at this point and war crimes are occurring. I am not a powerful or rich person. What should I do?

I really don’t think that’s it. Slavery is disgusting, even if China has made great technological advacements or done great things. It’s completely fucking gross and many people want nothing to do with slavery. This isn’t about the US, it’s about slavery being bad.

Check my post history before you presume my beliefs about the situation in gaza.

I disagree with many of Trump’s policies, but his idea for tariff’s on Chinese goods is possibly a good one. There’s no way to get this stuff out of the supply chain. I’m terrified some of the things I bought from China are made with slave labor.

How do I get slave labor out of my life?

Up to 14 hours a day? That probably means 80 hours a week. I do 40 and that’s difficult. 80… With no choice… So awful!

I don’t want to be a part of that.

People who are depressed often are unable to adhere to unwritten cultural social rules.

People in theory like to see themselves as supportive, but still will not react well to people violating unwritten cultural norms.

Example:

“i am so sad, this awful thing happen.”

“Don’t worry bro, it will get better, just pump iron and time will heal all. Hey do you want to see a funny video of my dog trying to bark at a roomba?”

(Awkward silence, breaking social rule of reciprocity) (long pause) “sure…”

(Video of dog)

(No laughter or comments, breaking rule that friends are supposed to be fun, react to things)

Result: next time depressed guy calls, “bro” will be too busy to pick up

Because people want to think of themselves as reliable and always there and supporting mental health, “bro” will never admit to himself the reason he is doing this, nor will it even be logically articulated. Instead he’ll think “i feel bad but im so busy lately” and just not take the call or forget to answer

This is completely in contrast with someone who is slightly depressed or dealing with something slightly difficult but not actually that depressed and able to adhere to social norms. For that person, they will get tons of superficial sound-bite support in between other normal acceptable activities and conversations. The “supporter” feels like a super hero for caring about mental health, and really it’s just two people hanging out, neither of whom really have major mental health issues.

I would suggest if you are really brutally clinically depressed, do not interact that much with your network until you are feeling a bit better because people are that shallow sometimes. Instead, do things like volunteer at community organizations in which more hands on deck is good, and if you cancel it’s not a big deal. (ie making food for homeless people)

Also the truth is many people are shitty in general. I don’t think this is something caused by you. I also think that much of the advice about mental health and depression is about making paychiatrists and mental health professionals look good and people feel good.

things like “talk about your mental health issues” and “help is available” and “prioritize mental health” all feel like lies that make other people feel better. But what if instead the truth was told? “Prioritize having food and being able to pay rent. Do not talk about your mental health issues ever except to trained professionals. Help is available and horrendously expensive; if you can cry and be sad 6 months and then go back to normal without rip-off doctors and professionals, you are much better off.”

So it’s not you at all. People are assholes and the mental health industry gives lucrative self-serving advice to glorify and protect the industry while screwing over people who would be better helped by the truth.