Things have to get real bad before people realize they need to get better. I’m hoping that happens here

Agreed, but the legal process will allow us to close the distance while I serve in the military instead of having to wait 4 years.

Ah, I should’ve clarified:

We’re both aware of the issues we’ve been having and both agree that closing the distance could very well fix them. So, we said we could marry only legally (as in go to a courthouse and do it that way) purely as a measure to do so while I serve. If we find out everything’s fine in that time, we can have an actual ceremony with family and vows and all that good stuff. If not, we get it annulled like it never happened

(Great writing for a rant that you didn’t proof-read. I especially like the LaTeX-like emdashes.)

Thanks, lol. I use them a lot

But if you decide she’s The One for you and she feels the same about you, then stay the course and maybe attempt to make your relationship more permanent (marriage) which might solve some of the problems (or make them worse if you’re not both committed to it)

I was thinking I would tough it out until we see one another in July — that’s just two and a half months away from now. If we still hit it off together in person after so long apart, I might stay, but if it’s awkward and/or we’re still having problems, I might leave. I just need to remain disciplined and moral with my friends — especially the one I know is interested in me — until then.

Edit: We’ve talked about getting married for the sole purpose of being able to live together while I serve. In my mind, if that doesn’t work out, a divorce isn’t the worst thing in the world, especially since we obviously won’t have kids or joint ownership of any assets.

Trust me, I’ve tried the whole “fucking around and having fun” thing. It’s definitely not for me; I much prefer a long-term partner over a situationship that lasts for a week or two.

Now fork it and use OpenRC