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Cake day: August 13th, 2023

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  • Women are also fed lies that men don’t need emotional support. Also, women are told constantly that men don’t want to be friends with them and only want sex.

    So there’s a good chance his friends that are women think he’s not having a hard time and/or he wants to sleep with them instead of talk.

    I’m sorry OP that you are going through this. The advice to join an in person hobby or interest group is probably best. (To supplement your therapy)

    Also, it’s also entirely possible, since it’s been 5 months, that everyone is overwhelmed with life and the world. I know I’ve not reached out as often to my friends the last 6 months (I’m stressed by country and the grief of losing my dad a few months ago.)

    Also you say it seems like everyone is supporting your ex. Are they really? Or is she holding them hostage with her drama and steamrolling into their lives?



  • It’s not the same (obviously) but it depends.

    If I buy a bag of jelly belly candy, I will eat the whole bag until I have a stomach ache, and then eat until the bag is empty. So I buy smaller amounts.

    But other sugary snacks? I went cold turkey and cut out all sugar and it was all I could focus on, I craved sugar to the point of being miserable. I bought a bag of chocolates, told myself I could have one a day (like a mini snickers) - what happened will shock!

    I ate one a day, and sometimes not even that. Just knowing it was there as an option took away the obsession and I ate overall a lot healthier.

    So, yeah, I could do sugar in moderation with chocolate, but not with those tiny jelly beans.

    Whatever your addiction is, only you know if you can really do moderation or not.

    I know of other people that kept a pack of smokes or a pint of whiskey in the back of a cabinet. Knowing it’s there is enough, and they just keep putting off partaking until suddenly they realize it’s been a year or more and they haven’t thought about it in ages.



  • Someone, not a therapist, told me pain isn’t a competition. I don’t have to wait for my pain to be worse than the pain of the people around me before I go get help for myself.

    In this case, I had physical pain I put off getting checked because it wasn’t worse than what why partner deals with daily. Turned out I needed antibiotics for a bad infection.






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    I don’t have pics, but after my two were fixed, I had borrowed one of these crates to keep them in for a few hours while they recovered fully from the anesthesia.

    One was loopy and just wanted to nap. The other was loopy and in bat mode like the one in this pic. I was afraid bat cat would pop her stitches or fall on her sister.

    We ended up carrying bat cat in our arms until the drugs wore off while nap cat slept it off.