When I was in college I had school health insurance so I was on some meds that helped my mental health but made me really fat. When i graduated I lost my health insurance, went off my meds, and lost 80lbs in less than a year. People asked me all the time “whats your secret” and they really didn’t like when the answer was “I’m off my meds and want to die, but at least I’m cute now”. At school I was on a meal plan and ate three healthy meals a day and used the school gym 4-6 days a week. I was fat but fit. After graduating I didn’t go to a gym again for about 7 years and still now don’t really eat very healthy or regularly. I’m less heavy than I was in school but I’m not strong or muscle-y like I was when I was fat.

The worst part is, imo, I have health insurance again, but I’d rather be depressed than go back to being fat, because society is so cruel to fat people. Especially on the internet where people are like “it really IS just as simple as keeping a caloric deficit”. That’s just not true.

Anyway, it made sense in my head to respond to you when I started this, but now I think I’ve gotten lost in the weeds a little. I’m not trying to argue with you about anything, I’m just sharing my experience.

Hope everyone can find one thing they love about their bodies today xx

I don’t usually feed the trolls, but I’m going to engage w you as if you were being genuine.

I used to watch Joe Rogan w my ex. My ex was a Bernie Bro. It turned into Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate. Now he dates women 10 years younger than him and I live with a roommate and am paying off his luxury car that I co-signed for him that has since been repossessed. He kicked me out of the apartment that I paid for because “he couldn’t stand to share his bed with me anymore” because Andrew tate told him he could do better than me. Look, people break up for lots of reasons. We weren’t a good match from the start. But the idea that he’s some high value alpha and I’m a used up ho is just so fucking silly, it was the stupidest most embarrassing way for my 7 year relationship to have ended.

It’s important to hear the opinions of people who disagree with you if they are being genuine. Joe Rogan and the rest are not good faith people. They are promoting disinformation and hate. And I think you are too.

I watched my dad end a lifelong friendship because the friend got sucked down the right wing garbage chute. He has not rebounded from his loss, but he can’t tolerate that friendship and just “not talk abt politics” around the guy.

Be better, my dear. I will not respond again.

My mom mentioned that my dad has been watching some concerning (in her words, “annoying”) YouTube content lately. Last time she said that it was America’s Got Talent, but this time it’s white men arguing with cops. I visited and asked if he would show me. He jokingly said “are you gonna violate my rights?” And I very seriously said “yes. I need to make sure it’s not Jordan Peterson or Joe Rogan or someone even worse”. He got a little bit offended and said “you know me better than that, I’m smarter than that”. But the thing is, you start by watching something innocuous like some idiot sovcit arguing with cops and the algorithm pipeline feeds you nazi shit from there and you don’t even know it.

For context, my parents are the kind of leftists that don’t know what leftists are. My mom calls herself a bleeding heart liberal, and my dad sees the media say things like “radical liberals” and jumps up off the couch screaming “you bet your ass im a radical liberal!” But they’re left of liberal, they just don’t have the language for it.

I’m not worried that my dad is gonna seek out nazi propaganda, im worried it’s gonna find him anyway and I want to throw his phone in a lake.

Maybe shower thoughts wasn’t the right community for me to have my existential crisis. But I wish i could block “sovcit” on my dad’s phone and “trad-anything” on my mom’s phone, not because I think they’re dumb (okay maybe a little) but because this shit is so toxic and intrinsic and scary and my parents are so dumb.

Take care of yourself and your loved ones xx

Awesome. Just subbed to both. Thank you so much :'-)

Nicole never messaged me and I miss the ol’ switcharoo and beetlejuicing and r/catsstandingup :,(

I left reddit during the api drama last year (more than a year?). I did it on principle. The content on lemmy is not comparable to the niche communities on reddit. Yeah, Steve Huffman is a little pissbaby or whatever the current meme is. But lemmy doesn’t have the art communities or the weird goofy shit that reddit did, and as a chronically online loser, my life is a little emptier without it. And I know how stupid and unimportant that is, which is why I’m here and not there.

Plus the porn on lemmy is just like… so disappointing and sparse.

Unrelated- I’m ready to switch to Linux, but do I really have to learn what a distro is and how to build my own PC? Can’t I just buy a Linux PC ready to go? Please?