anarchoilluminati [comrade/them]

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Cake day: November 14th, 2023

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  • Oh, you’re right. My bad. I thought they were referring to BRICS, isn’t the first time that happened to me. I feel like Belt and Road should be called BR or B&R or something, I always get confused.

    Pakistan being an important member of Belt and Road while India is a founding member of BRICS and all of this happening right now as Trump is trying to fuck with China while having hands in Pakistan just really makes me even more a believer in this being some false flag. If we don’t die in nuclear hellfire then we’ll find out in 50 years, I guess.














  • I think it just sometimes comes down to feeling trapped by circumstances. I’m not saying there is no other choice but sometimes the person does not feel there is another choice or cannot perceive another realistic path.

    It may be in this situation that your uncle wanted to go his own way but felt like he couldn’t because his family depends on him, as you said, so he was trying to do the right thing while also taking care of his needs. All of the pain and uprooting of the family which that would cause is avoided by staying and stepping out instead, especially if undiscovered. Is it still deceitful and hurtful to your aunt and the family? Of course, that goes without saying, but maybe he felt trapped in a corner. I’m speculating, I don’t know your uncle nor the situation beyond what you’ve shared.

    As someone who had partners who cheated and who has very close friends that were shattered by cheating partners, I think the most important thing we can do is accept that this sometimes happens and it’s not always because someone in particular is at fault. The worst thing someone can do is get mired in how impossible it is to understand, how it could ever happen to them, unbelievable that this person would do that, how can anyone ever be trusted again, love is not possible, etc. I was there myself for a while and one friend of mine was bitterly for many years, just recently getting out of it, and no one should be stuck there. People need to be able to accept it and let it go. I won’t go so far as to say forgive, but it’s not a mystery of the universe that most human beings need and want to fuck and the social and legal construct of a relationship or marriage may not hold that need and desire back under certain circumstances. Ultimately, the person cheated on will need to take care of themselves (emotionally, at least) and they will have to be able to let it go to avoid prolonging and maximizing damage.

    I also am a fan of poly or open relationships, and I’ve done that before, but it’s still possible to cheat in those circumstances if rules are broken so unsure why people are bringing that up like it resolves the issue. That being said, it would probably help in some situations like these if people could agree to it and understand the love/romance aspect of their partnership is gone. I agree with the adage that you can go from open to closed but you can’t go from closed to open, though. It is too difficult on the relationship, in my opinion.

    All of this reminds me of the Before Trilogy, including the cheating. I can’t recommend that trilogy enough to anyone who is at least over 30 and has had at least one major relationship fail, even better if you’re older and had more pain. Same goes for the Days of Being Wild, In the Mood for Love, 2046 trilogy. Just amazing films about humanity in relation.



  • Fuck kings but I’m going to defend the rightful King of Gondor for a minute here.

    Aragorn in the movie might be said to have done this, although that’s also debatable. Book Aragorn is different. He didn’t abandon his duties due to feelings of inadequacy, that is just in the films. In the book Aragorn didn’t immediately claim his title but not because he felt inadequate. Aragorn went around for decades traveling and working throughout Middle earth, and Arda generally, to organize and gain support among the people and sectors of power. He didn’t want to claim it just because he was born to inherit it, he wanted to work for it in some sense. He was fulfilling his duties throughout Middle earth. That being said, he was always very confident about being king and that he would return, but they didn’t feel that would play well in the movie so they made him that way to make him more sympathetic.