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Cake day: July 19th, 2023

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  • Yeah, I’m pretty torn. In my small community (on an island), housing and rent are insanely expensive, and also pretty scarce. There are people who have full time jobs living in tents in the woods or in their cars (in Alaska) not because they can’t afford a place to stay, but because there are no places to rent.

    It’s also a major tourist spot, and the population more than doubles regularly on days during the summer, and for those that fly in, the hotels book up quick. So there’s a huge AirBnB market. Which means houses are getting bought up and then set up as AirBnBs instead of renting to residents, so housing becomes even more scarce. So I hate AirBnB.

    But… I just bought a 4 bedroom house, where one of the beds is in a built in 1-bedroom apartment, with its own kitchen and everything. We wanted a 4bedroom house so we could have a guest room for people visiting, as well as just have extra space for us. Well, once I retire, one of our plans is to rent that out as an AirBnB during the times we don’t have guests staying. It doesn’t deplete housing in the area (we wouldn’t be renting it out anyway), and it helps pay our ridiculous mortgage.

    So I hate it… but if it’s used properly/ethically, I feel like it could be pretty good.


  • Hey, man, I agree on about 90% of that. I want to not give a shit about people’s genders, sexuality, race, whatever. And for the most part, I don’t.

    But if I saw someone I didn’t know getting the shit kicked out of them on the street, I don’t think I can say “I don’t give a fuck.” And in some form or another, the equivalent is happening to people of particular genders, sexuality, race, whatever. So I may not give a fuck about any individuals gender, sex, race, whatever, but I do care that those people are being shit on.

    So if you’re the type who walks by while somebody gets beat up, you may be able to tell youself you’re better than the people offering up a beating by not giving a fuck, but not the person who comes by afterward to try to stop it.



  • Okay, look, as a parent, I can tell you you have to tread a fine line. If you don’t “force feed” your kid (specifically, aren’t allowed to leave the table or eat anything else), they’ll end up eating nothing but chicken nuggets, fries, mac & cheese, and apples. That is not a balanced diet.

    However, forcing them to eat absolutely anything and everything is extreme, too. I don’t like everything. I wouldn’t want somebody to force me to eat mushrooms.

    So at any given meal, they can choose one and only one thing they don’t like and don’t have to eat. And I do try to avoid giving them things they obviously don’t want to eat (not even going to try putting broccoli on their plate even though it’s delicious).

    Plus it’s a sliding scale: if I could get my 3-year-old to eat, and it wasn’t junk food, I was happy. When he turned 5, he had to start expanding his food out a bit (turns out he’s basically vegetarian except chicken nuggets, but he loves cucumber, carrots, salad, oranges, apples, etc because we made him eat them for a bit). Our 11-year-old, hoever, is expected to eat what we eat (minus spicy or overly spiced things, kids’ palates are different), but can make small exceptions. If she’s like “I don’t like any of this,” that doesn’t fly, though.

    All that to say “Force feeding kids is so fucked up” is ignoring a lot of necessary nuance.




  • One side it trying to force them to choose a side. It is up to adults to say “this is between us, and our relationship doesn’t change your relationships.”

    OP could be very supportive of their mother and still not want to move out of the home they already lived in. But it doesn’t sound like the mom wants to let OP do that.

    Also, from their other comments, their father has been more supportive through their life while their mom has been cold and judgemental. Trying to force her child into a position whete they are expected to mete out judgement as well just emphasizes that they aren’t terribly concerned with the well-being of their child.

    And anyway, if you want support, you should give support. And OPs mom missed that boat, so it makes sense for OP to stay with the parent who supported them.








  • I got the highest score on the newly created school-wide writing assessment for two years running at my high school of 2k students.

    Then I failed or dropped English 101 twice in college, once because even though my essays were nearly flawless and I did plenty of writing, I failed to complete my daily journals, and the other because the professor was so complacent that they didn’t know the story they had as part of their syllabus for 15 years. I then passed it with an A when it was online and the “journal entries” were forum discussions about the weekly movie we all watched and discussed (e.g. Thelma and Louise, discussing gender issues and whatnot). I’ve never been good at busy work, or work designed to just “give experience.” But something that engages my attention or is working toward a particular goal and I do great.

    So yeah, like you said, As or Fs.



  • 2 (as long as that means I can’t go past my current weight, not that every time I poop, sweat, or pee I lose weight I can never regain) 5… and I guess 9. I’m doing okay, and I’ve never had a strong need for “a lot of money.”

    5 isn’t even because I want to have super strength, it’s more to be able to compensate for my jacked up joints and being overweight.

    I would trade any of the three of these for “cure my sleep apnea” though.

    1 sounds tempting, as long as it’s just the insulation, you know? I don’t know a whole lot about biology, but I feel like if you immediately removed all fats from your body, your cells would just die (all the lipids disappearing). But if you could remove all the fat listed in the “body fat percentage” and made it so I could still get some fats quickly (for a healthy amount), I’d take that over 2. Once it’s there, it makes it so hard to get rid of, but I feel like if it was gone in one go, I could keep it off.

    Wow, my decisions for “magic pills” would be kind of depressing to 20-year-old me. At least with the exception of my health I’m reasonably content.