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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I didn’t ever marry my ex, was irritated at how discriminatory legal marriage was back then, and we had kids so were a family anyway.

    My husband now? He really wanted to be married, and “stepdad” is a different legal status than “mom’s boyfriend”, it smooths things when he had to do school pickup or doctor visit. So since he pushed and I as did see an upside we did.

    Also you can’t foster or adopt here unless you are married - unmarried man in the household is a known risk to the kids he’s not related to. Statistically, it raises the risk of the kid getting hurt so single people can, or married couples but not unmarried hetero couples.

    I am with you logically, I don’t need it, and don’t feel different and it’s weird for the state to license families. I understand religious marriage but am not religious.





  • Well it doesn’t take over my yard because I got it all removed by a guy with a backhoe because it scared me. I like the way it looks but want some clumping bamboo not running bamboo, which had taken over the yard here when we bought our house. There’s still a little in one corner I just aggressively manage it. Comes over from the neighbors so it’s unavoidable.

    There are bamboo forests, aren’t there? I’m sure that in its natural habitat it does have competition. Like kudzu. It’s just invasive here.



  • “Federal law prohibits state and local actors from resisting, obstructing, and otherwise failing to comply with lawful immigration-related commands,” wrote Emil Bove, then acting deputy attorney general.

    Well, did they approach the bench and show a legal warrant? Did they prove the legality of their detention of the person? Or were they doing a smash and grab?

    I think that rule is fair enough, but this whole campaign of terror is riddled with illegality. If the kidnapping is illegal, or they didn’t prove to the judge that it was legal, this rule doesn’t apply.





  • What awful news. It’s always been 13 here since I had kids, the age you can go to the STD clinic at the county, and have limited medical privacy. I used to give my kids flyers for their friends so they would know. It does make for some odd effects (there are 5 years when we can’t use the online health portal at all because the kid is old enough that I can’t login and see their info but not old enough to have their own login.) but overall seems like the right age.

    Presumably when you have kids you know you are growing them into adults, right? You can’t keep them children right up to 18 then suddenly expect them to be adult, nothing good can come from that.


  • I ride an electric bike instead of driving, gentle exercise but I’m sure it makes a difference. Pokemon go walks, yoga 4x a week at a group class, weightlifting less than once a week. Yardwork too, hauling things around. I got running shoes but have not deployed them yet, I’d like to run once a week only. I do move around a lot. I read somewhere that if you wanted to be fit after you are 50 you really need to exercise 3 hours a day, and it seems true. Not like lifting for 3 hours every day but if I was retired I’d do cardio every morning, lifting every noon, yoga every evening except one day totally off everything each week.

    Also, keep a glass of water at your desk. Get up to fill it, drink, get up to pee, repeat. So that you aren’t sitting for too long.