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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Depends on the cat(s) really.

    My old kitty (RIP) was a third one in a house with two nominally feral adoptees and they did not welcome her.

    When I moved and she was the sole cat she displayed stress and shredded two sofas and more.

    Now we have two unrelated cats adopted together that don’t totally adore one another but are civil and they have NEVER scratched a single non-kitty item.

    While they tend to keep to themselves I DO think they stimulate each other with occasional (thankfully gentle) paw bats and chases or just do solitary cat things. Like roommates.

    So…depends - if you’re not home a lot kitty will need stimulation. Good luck!












  • No. Just no.

    She’s in the midst of a divorce and almost certainly not ready for that.

    You admit concerns about compatibility but way more than that claim you’d change who you are for them.

    No.

    That will NEVER work out well. Love comes from people who love who you are, not who you can try to be.

    The bond you have is lovely, let her dust settle and the storm to pass - once there is “normal” life see if you still feel the same. Crisis and trauma can push people together but perhaps for the wrong reasons.

    Good luck. I hope you both find happiness.