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Cake day: August 26th, 2024

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  • Happens to me in meetings all the time. I messed it up for my team a few months ago and my manager had me and a few others turn on our cameras because he thought I wasn’t paying attention.

    I kind of was, but kind of wasn’t. It’s hard in a meeting of 9 people who spend 5 minutes each talking about things that have nothing to do with me but I have to pay attention in case I do have input to share.




  • He’s actually really well behaved lol. Today was the first day I’ve had to scold him in a while because he snuck out of the house when I cracked the door open to leave. But he generally sleeps at the foot of my bed right beside or on top of my feet.

    But for the most part, he’s very obedient and kind to me. I taught him as a young kitten to not bite and to instead “ask” for pets. He was an extremely violent kitten! He would always bite. I started scolding him and he would stop and would instead start to just lean in slowly for a bite because he didn’t want to hear me yell and when he would do that, I would scratch his ears or under his chin since his face was already near my hand, which is his favorite place to get scratches. I love touching his paws and he hatesss that. So that was the perfect teaching opportunity, whenever he would lean in to bite, I immediately scratched his chin and he began associating discomfort with redirecting me instead of resorting to biting me. So when he would get those urges to bite, even the love biting, he now just leans in for a scratch and I give him a good scratch under his chin and he goes wild with purring. I also unintentionally taught him to use his paws to grab my hand to ask for pets too, so he does that instead of biting too and will try to get me to not stop scratching his chin. I think that came from me touching his paws and he associated that with scratches so he does that to “ask” for scratches. He often reaches up with his little paws to demand scratches while I’m working from home even in meetings.

    He bit me on my foot once a few months ago but I could tell it was because I was petting him with my foot and he wasn’t enjoying it and in hindsight, I think I wasn’t paying enough attention to his warnings to ask me to stop. I can’t remember the last time he tried biting me before that.

    He was declawed many years ago by my parents when I lived with them, so scratching hasn’t been an issue. That’s the reason I’m very strict about him being outside because we have owls and coyotes and other cats and he can’t defend himself from them like other cats can. I take him outside supervised for a little while each day which has helped our bond too. I can tell he trusts me a lot and will go in when I tell him to even though he loves being outside. So I think he doesn’t want to bite me because of the bond we have too.


  • I think my cat knows it’s a game when I put my hand under the blanket and swish around on the sheets. He especially likes it when the hand reaches over the side of the bed and he can see it move partially and hears that sound of hand swishes across a sheet.

    His eyes widen up and he slouches down in attack mode and waits for the kill. But he’s gentle when he goes in for the kill, only grabbing on and then letting go. I give him some scratches and grab him up to hug him close as I scratch him all over his head as a reward.



  • Seriously. I used to actually use Siri.

    I realized this yesterday when I went through the manual process of unlocking my phone and looking for another LLM app to ask a question.

    I don’t even trust Siri anymore to open an app.

    Don’t get me started on music. I used to be able to say “Hey Siri, play this whole album” or “play that song” and it would play the whole album.

    She’s absolutely useless.


  • The one I got off Amazon for like $25 is only slightly more difficult than replacing your toilet seat. Remove the existing toilet seat, screw this one in, put your toilet seat back on, connect to the water inlet the toilet uses. About a 30-45 minute job in total.

    There’s no electronics because it uses the water pressure to push the water through, so it’ll work even with the power out.

    Especially good for renters because it’ll be just as easy to remove and leaves no permanent change.

    You could go all out and get a more expensive one with heating and other features too, but this has worked for me. Saved me a lot in money.





  • Lenovo has one that comes to mind. I’ve seen this one at Best Buy that’s a Chromebook and may be a good candidate for Linux upgrade with a detachable keyboard that is very much like the Surface’s. It’s the Lenovo IdeaPad Duet 5. Here’s a screenshot

    Decent specs but not the best and okay price, especially compared to the Windows prices.

    I’m not too familiar with how compatible this is with Linux, but I have installed Linux on other Chromebooks in the past and ChromeOS is a Linux distro of sorts, so it should work. One reason I’m more into Chromebooks for Linux candidates is that they have USB type C charging standard and they are typically cheaper as brand new machines. The only thing I hate is that they don’t have a caps lock key but that weird search key in place of it.

    But might be something to check out.


  • That man has some nerve. That’s really weird to say to anyone.

    I feel like your sister’s reaction is the same as some people’s when finding their spouse cheating with someone else. Who do they get mad at and attack? Not their partner, but the person they are cheating with. It’s illogical and dumb. But they don’t want to be mad at their partner. They want very desperately to believe that it was someone else who forced them to do something horrible.

    Not that he was cheating, but this is the next closest thing and your sister feels an emotion similar to that.

    Not to excuse her, but I think that’s where she’s coming from. It’s a dumb response and hopefully she realizes it and chastises her husband, not the innocent sister who’s just minding her own business and shared an innocent picture. What did she expect you to do? Just not respond? Would she have been mad at him for starting this conversation?

    I’m sorry you had to read this and have her go after you. This is so dumb and I feel for you.



  • I had someone say something similar to me once. It hurt deeply because I liked her a lot and she knew it.

    But just know people like this are trying to be as mean as they can be and sometimes they know what to say to cut you deep. Whether it’s true or not, they know what hits you in the deepest part and they’re trying to inflict damage on you. It’s like a military general picking an area with the most people to bomb because that is precisely where it will cause the most damage.

    Don’t pay it any mind. Ignore it. Move on from it. Move on from her. She’s toxic for saying that and not worth your time or just you giving her a thought in the day.

    People like this are often miserable and they want to bring someone else down to their level. Don’t let them. It hurts, but try to move on the best you can. That’s the best way to deal with people like this.

    The woman who said the similar things to me is now in a very lonely place, herself. After years of letting her step on me and berate me and use me, I finally left her. I realized she needed me more than I needed her and I was ready to find someone who would actually value me for me and not belittle me while relying on me so heavily. She actually reached out to me a few years later to tell me her mom passed away. I didn’t laugh in her face or say anything mean, but it made me realize that she’s lonely and I’m likely the only person she felt close to, to talk to in her grief.

    Say all that to say…hang in there. Sorry she said these mean things to you and it cut as deep as it did.

    Try your best to move on and rise above it. Don’t dwell on it. Find people who will value you and not belittle you. Realize she’s likely miserable and taking out some of that on you. You can be sympathetic by walking away and letting her be miserable by herself until she matures and doesn’t treat others like this.