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  • You’re both going through depression and that’s rough on its own.

    I love my wife’s long hair, but idk, I love her more than I do her hair.
    If she buzz cuts it, or ever gets cancer and loses it, or, whatever happens really, I can’t really see my feelings for her changing over this.

    I’m not judging here, I’m saying there’s probably more to this than just the hair itself?

    I can’t know if it’s about other changes related to your depressions, coping with agender-ness, attraction, control, or whatever, but I think none of us here is really equipped to help you out.
    Not that I don’t want to help, but you’re probably better off seeking professional help.

    Now, whether that’s a solo psychologist or couples therapy, be mindful of choosing a practitioner that’s friendly to the agender and trans people.
    I imagine it would suck for your wife to get shoved into a religious zealot’s trad-wife conversion therapy.

    I’m a dude with long hair who’s not shy of either my masculine nor feminine side and I’d be pretty bummed if my wife told be she hated how I look and signed me up for boot camp so they buzz cut my hair.

    Feels like the hair is the tip of the iceberg here.
    Good luck to you both.