It’s still Minecraft and Terraria.

Oh, also! I don’t know if you live on campus or if you’re a commuter, but if the latter: stay on campus during the day! Sometimes I had big enough schedule gaps that I could have gone home in between classes, but staying on campus instead made it a lot easier to just go to the library or whatever.

Pomodoro timers, as someone else mentioned, are great. It was a lot easier to start when I could tell myself “ok, I only have to do this for fifteen minutes” – and most of the time when that first timer went off I’d gotten into a groove and kept going anyway.

For writing assignments, I found starting with a blank page really difficult, so I’d paste in a paragraph or two of lorem ipsum or some other nonsense text and go from there. Having words on the page, even though they were irrelevant and I knew I’d have to delete them later, tricked my brain into thinking “oh, I’ve already started this; carry on, then!”

The habit of doing even just a little bit every day was more sustainable and more effective for me than infrequent big cram/study/writing sessions.

I had probably the most success with using musical cueing. Whenever I sat down to write or study, I listened to one of the same two albums on repeat. (I like classical; one was Handel’s Messiah and the other was a two-disc set of Thomas Tallis choral works.) Even now, almost a decade later, when I put either of those on it instantly snaps me into work mode. Creating that kind of association is really helpful! And having only one or two choices also meant I couldn’t distract myself by trying to figure out what to listen to: it was A or B, end of.

You might also consider how/whether you could spread out your course load. Most years in undergrad I did five classes a semester, but one or twice I did four only (plus a summer class to stay on track) and being at only 80% of a full load made a huge difference.

Good luck!

Lovely!

Does this raccoon know about Conrad?

https://www.cbc.ca/news/trending/deadraccoonto-honoured-by-toronto-with-sidewalk-vigil-1.3146036

An ultrasound tech once told me that I have a cute spleen.

So… the dishes were important enough for your partner to berate you about them multiple times, but not important enough for them to do the washing-up while you were out? Are they always your responsibility? Did you have a mutual conversation and understanding about chore division, or has your partner implicitly or explicitly assigned certain chores to you?

What measures of responsibility does your partner take for their own sleep? Sleep mask? Ear plugs? White noise? Weighted blanket? Other measures? Or is it all on you to accommodate them?

Would offering to sleep on the couch if you come home after they’re asleep feel like a reasonable compromise for you?

Does having a curfew set for you by your partner seem like a normal thing to you? Are you surprised that people here think it’s not normal?

Does your partner regularly use belittling or derogatory language towards you as you’ve detailed here? Does it feel to you that using such language is justified by your ADHD?

Does this situation seem like a one-off thing, or is it often a problem that you have not read your partner’s mind?

I think you’ve got some important questions to ask yourself here.

It’s opportunity costs all the way down, baby!

Intimacy coordinators aren’t explaining how sex works to the actors, but helping to make sure that they’re comfortable with each other & what they’re being asked to do. They’re analogous to stunt coordinators in that way.

Part of this is helping actors to work through or find accommodations when they could be running up against situations that could trigger old traumas. So if one party has a history of assault, for example, the intimacy coordinator will work with them and their scene partner to make sure that what they’re acting out doesn’t mimic/mirror their experience.

Does that make sense?