Creator of LULs (a script which helps links to point to your instance)

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  • The mindset of clinging to this connection just makes it harder, trust me.

    In online dating you have at least a 70% random loss rate that you have no real control over or idea what went wrong. Even in “real” dating, approaching people during hobbies etc, it doesn’t work in like 30-50% of the cases where you thought there were sparks.

    I know that it’s hard, but you’ll find someone again. A blue moon happened once, it’ll happen again :)



  • Little common luxuries, lots of nature, lots of silence, freedom from most things. It’s a return to a more ancient, simple way of life.

    For some people this represents extreme comfort and serenity.

    For other people they don’t understand why you’d give up having a warm shower readily available (or similar things) and are annoyed the whole way.

    Have fun finding out what’s yours! :D



  • Ideas are incredibly cheap. It’s absolutely unlikely that no one ever had your idea. It’s even likely that someone had your idea and it failed, and you don’t/can’t even know about it because no one bothered to record the failure.

    Other people have mentioned all kinds of ambitious/proper ways to do this. I’ve got a different view: if you truly think this will work, do a basic version yourself.

    Learn basic blender, design 3D printed parts yourself and let someone print them. Use some app builder and tutorials, or hire a programmer for a very rudimentary prototype work. Buy generic electronics. Just get it working once. Then show it to people, let them use it, ask if they would buy it, preferably let them sign a slip of paper not to talk about this product or compete with it (there are standard NDA/non-compete contract clauses online available) or talk to people you can trust.

    If you do all this and get positive feedback, then you can start doing this properly and get more people on it, like the other commenters mentioned.


  • Azzu@lemm.eetoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlHow do I make a product?
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    No. Just no. You’re talking about perfectionism basically. Who cares about continuing maintenance? If you get the product out there and working enough to last the 2 years warranty, you’re completely fine. One programmer is perfectly capable of learning the most basic things about the disciplines you mentioned, it doesn’t need to be good, it just needs to do its job mostly.

    You have no clue about the scope of what this guy’s idea is since he gave no info. Maybe it’s so simple not even one programmer would have to work on it for very long.

    Of course, what you say is perfectly possible to be “correct”, but you just have no way of knowing.


  • Dating requires incredible mental resilience. People are traumatized. People are selfish. People are rude. People are struggling. You will have to be able to deal with all kinds of unpleasant behaviors.

    Most of the time, these unpleasant behavior have literally nothing to do with you, because people are just self-centered, the hero of their own story, not seeing others as truly equal, putting you into neat little boxes you don’t really fit in, or so many other reasons.

    Even if you’re the most perfect person in the world, literally the most attractive, literally with perfect people skills, you’d miss out on at least 70% of connections just because of the random shortcomings of the other person or tertiary events. So you have to be able to deal with the fact that most interactions will not work out.

    But for your and everyone’s psyche, every failure is a blow to the ego. So you will always get more blows to your ego than getting it stroked with a success. So it’s completely natural to feel like you do, that there’s an issue with you. But it’s just simply not true.

    The only way to do this dating thing is do it exactly as much as you can handle another rejection. Optimally, you’ll be so comfortable by yourself that you literally don’t care about rejection, because you’re so comfortable already anyway, so why should a rejection matter? You’d just return to being comfortable alone.


  • I mean, meh. I never would’ve gotten together with people if I hadn’t just followed whatever they were comfortable with. I wrote for like 3 weeks about the deepest shit before I met up with someone, still together with that person. With others, I do exchange 3 messages and then meet up.

    It’s more about genuinely being interested in the other person, getting them out of their “shell”, i.e. talking about what they truly want, by being truly open yourself. So in a sense what you say is true though, if you wanna meet, you should tell them you wanna meet.

    I’ve also been successful re-establishing “ghosted” connections just by saying what I feel like “huh I thought we had a good connection here, apparently I misjudged that, anyway, hope you have a good one :)”

    Of course there’ll be many where you’re just too different to build a connection, too incompatible, or just too much unrelated shit getting in the way. But there’s just no single script to follow. Except just saying what you want/feel, and truly listening.





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    Nix zu danken. Ist verständlich das mit dem alleine sein.

    Ich hab selbst vor 2.5 Jahren einvernehmlich ne 7 jährige Beziehung beendet, ich habe die Grundlagen geändert und sie hat dann gesagt, dass das für sie nicht geht. War danach auch ziemlich am Arsch xD

    Dann mal viel Spaß mit dem remaster. Ich hab zu der Zeit viel Dota gespielt :)


  • Makes sense to me. I came back to this a little late, did not see your replies to my comment(s) until now. Having read everything you wrote: your parents not at home (I thought they were), she reducing sex massively, her not wanting to talk about you, the increase in contact to the guy, all seemed to me like she was not attracted to you anymore.

    I’m really sorry. If you need someone to talk to or something (in German as well if you like, your name sounds like that, I’m from Germany), we can if you want. I haven’t had a situation like this, but I know how much breakups hurt.


  • So to get to your actual question, from what exactly you wrote you definitely seem to be overreacting to this specific situation. They’re at her parents home, she’s unlikely to have any intentions to cheat on you there.

    However, if you don’t mind me saying, your relationship also doesn’t sound completely secure to me. Would you mind some more questions regarding the general relationship and yourself and some advice in that regard or are you fine with this for now? :)







  • You’re likely gonna experience racism in some form in any community you go to where you are the minority. People are racist, not people of some specific skin color.

    So your assessment is correct, if you go to a majority black community you’re probably gonna find people racist against white people.

    But when you go to the US, white is still the majority. And if you’re not the majority, you’re mostly still a large part. Statistically, the most racism you’ll experience is everyday racism, where maybe some black people believe you’re an asshole even though you aren’t. Most of the time you’re not going to experience anything.