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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • Just clarifying that neither F-Droid nor Aurora have anything to do wirh piracy.

    F-Droid is for open source software and while yes, some of the apps are replacements for that wouldn’t fly in the app store (NewPipe, Spotube), they are not pirated or piracy tools.

    Aurora is just a front-end for Play store that mainly allows you to download free apps without a Google account.




  • As a woman who’s been that down: IMHO you can just empathize, but admit you don’t have the capacity to deal with her needs. That you wish her well, but for your own mental health, you can’t be her rock. She may well know she has trust and relationship issues, and is telling you for the very reason that she wants you to walk away now if you can’t cope, rather than break her heart later.

    Of course it’s also possible she’s has a personality disorder, rather than “just” depression, anxiety and trauma. So don’t let yourself be guilted back.

    In any case, for both your sakes, and I hope this does not need saying: No sex.

    Edit: Based on your responses you’re barely acquaintances. No action necessary, just let it drop.



  • You clearly stated you didn’t want to have someone comb through you papers and argue, and their value as evidence is obvious to anyone who bothers to take a look, so the reaction of “nothing will come out of continuing this conversation” is quite understandable. I returned to say thank you for posting sources, but since you seem to take this as some kind of “stunned them to silence”…

    The first two sources apparently refer to the same study; Okami 1995 is mostly literature review, methods, and intermediary results, while Okami 1998 is the final results.

    Okami 1995: “Consistent with the cross-sectional retrospective literature (and with our expectations), no harmful main effects of these experiences were found at age 17-18. […] Taken as a whole then, effects are few, but generally beneficial in nature.”

    Okami 1998: “No harmful “main effect” correlates of the predictor variables were found.”

    So I fail to see how they’d support your point.

    The last one, the Yahoo article, is not a study nor does it refer to any.

    Okami 1998 also had a link to Lewis 1988, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3421828/: “The results suggest that childhood experiences with exposure to nudity and sleeping in the parental bed are not adversely related to adult sexual functioning and adjustment. In fact, there is modest support that these childhood experiences are positively related to indices of adjustment.”

    Recognition of pre-existing bias: I’m Finnish, and this felt like an attack on family saunas.





  • Depends on what kind of relationship you have, which I think in turn tends to depend on the age and the sex of the children, among other things.

    A 14-year-old boy, yeah, rather gross, especially if he is uncomfortable or sucks at expressing their affection any other way on other days.

    Me, a 40+ year old woman who has a warm relationship with my mom, now with an additional layer of “two old ladies”, and a history of dirty jokes: Nah, I hope she got a chuckle out of the pic (I visited a week early, didn’t think of making something like this).




  • Weird case to make anyway.

    The primary language of most non-UK non-Irish Europeans is not English/American/Australian/“International English”/whatever.

    Yes, English/American/Australian/“International English”/whatever is the de facto lingua franca.

    Would I rather that it was Esperanto or some other easy-for-all-to-learn manufactured language? Yes. Does it really bother me it is what it is? No, I’m just happy we have one.