I don’t have any issue talking to girls when the intent is not romantic/sexual. OK I have met someone, first few conversations went alright, how do I transition to something else without being embarrassed and feeling like a dick? Like, if I want to say something technical or communicate for something else, everything is fine. Otherwise, I feel very embarrassed and feel like I will be disgusting to her if I said something… I guess it is me trying to be OK with everyone and not have more people hate me… I don’t know if I can take any more people hating me… makes me feel worthless…
Flirting is a cooperative effort. You can have great game and still fail if she isn’t interested. You might also meet a girl that gives you a positive reaction, but you might miss it if you aren’t looking at her that way. It takes two to make flirting work.
If you want to get to know girls; tell a few jokes or funny stories. If you think a girl might actually like you, tell her a dumb joke. If she laughs, she probably likes you. If she doesn’t laugh, she’s not interested yet. Keep trying and you will learn what works and what doesn’t.
There are lots of women in this world so try talk to as many women as you can. Be persistent without being aggressive and you will do just fine. There is someone out there for everyone.
Flirtation is a lot easier and more comfortable when you know the person already likes you. And it can seem creepy to them if they don’t already like you. So it might be good to not flirt until you’re confident it will be well received and in the meantime just be friendly and sincere. An important aspect of potential relationships is not appearing as if you think someone’s only value is if they’re a potential partner. People talk to and know other people, so treating everyone well can improve chances of potential partners thinking well of you. Sometimes the best thing you can do to find a partner is to work on yourself.
You and me both, brother. But, I did somehow end up getting married twice and having a bunch of kids, so, there’s hope for everyone!
Yeah, one of the thousand pound sisters got married and had a kid.
I don’t get it and googling their username didn’t help
Why would you google their username and if you did why would you publicly admit to it?
I don’t understand the thousand pound sister thing.
Usually stuff like that is a username pun
I did somehow end up getting married twice and having a bunch of kids, so, there’s hope for everyone
one of the thousand pound sisters got married and had a kid.
I get that part.
I don’t get why you called them a thousand pound sister
I didn’t call them that, it was agreeing with their point that anyone (the thousand pound sisters) can get married and have a kid.
Flirting is a compliment. Don’t be ashamed of complimenting people, we could all use a little more of it
Absolutely but you’re leaving out a key concept here, which is pay attention to the reception. If they receive it badly that’s not a hard ‘no fuck off’ (well… unless it literally is), but if it continues to be received badly or even just neutrally, it’s important to recognize this.
OP is worried about how men are judged by default (and understandably so, from both sides of this kind of situation), and they are clearly a little ‘too worried’ but really it’s more like being worried about the wrong part.
People that have trouble with this kind of thing need to shift their perceptive from ‘how will they take it’ to ‘how did they take it’ and make an audible from that point instead of trying to predict the entire sequence. It’s not about the gender or anything else other than how they as a human being receive your attention which requires rational analysis in real time (which is likely where those with low self-esteem can run into trouble) and not falling back on your default perceptions to help cope with the results
