my bf is poly and already has a bf, so he doesn’t want to initiate anything with me. he doesn’t wanna call nor hang out, and he always texts very dry. he’s nice, but i don’t feel loved.

I’m not doing well mentally though. my gf already ignores me (she and i are poly too) and i feel like i will die if he breaks up (though i clearly won’t die)

  • WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works
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    1 month ago

    So this person doesn’t want to call or hang out with you, never initiates anything, doesn’t make you feel loved, and just sends soulless loveless texts like they are sending a work email?

    Sorry to be blunt, but what makes you think this person is your boyfriend?

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      1 month ago

      well he does but he feels bad bc he has a bf he has been dating longer.

      sometimes he’ll send the occasional heart emojis if i do first

      “They mostly just type like this.

      Hello

      I’m fine, what about you?

      Sorry, I can’t hang out. I don’t want my boyfriend to be upset.”

      • jol@discuss.tchncs.de
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        1 month ago

        That’s not how poly relationships work. You are a side bitch for when his bf is not around. Please remove yourself from this “relationship” for your sake.