There is this girl I like, she knows I would like to go on a date with her someday. She isn’t sure what she wants at the moment. That’s all fine but I genuinely begin to develop feelings for her. And I just don’t really care all that much for a friendship anymore. It screws with my psyche, it’s like only being allowed to smell a fine wine instead of drinking it. (bad analogy, but fuck it)

I’ve had enough. I just want to tell her I don’t like seeing her on just a friendship level any more. And if she doesn’t see me as a romantic partner, which is totally A-okay fine with me, but it will mean I’m walking away from this friendship all together. At the same time I don’t want to force her to make a decision (she sometimes has trouble saying no). And here’s the real son of a gun, she is highly suicidal and takes endings of friendship badly (as she herself has said).

So does anyone have any advice to spare here? Yes, I’m a terrible person so think of it for her sake. Because the friendship is going to end, one way or the other.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
    226·
    2 days ago

    If she’s not a good enough friend that you’re willing to just walk away from her, then dating is probably a bad idea.

    • Fat Tony@lemm.eeOP
      1410·
      2 days ago

      It’s nothing about her not being good enough. It’s my own feelings that are in the way.

      • Tehhund@lemmy.worldEnglish
        141·
        2 days ago

        I disagree with the person you’re replying to - romantic partners and friends have a lot in common but they are not the same thing. And just because you were romantically interested in someone doesn’t mean you owe them friendship. These things are difficult and if you don’t want to keep being a friend for whatever reason that’s fine.