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Cake day: March 13th, 2025

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  • See that’s the problem though. They claimed it was a hazard to have a tool shed next to our garden when it absolutely was not. If the regulations can be abused by greedy or evil people then they are shitty regulations.

    They knew she didn’t have the money for a lawyer to fight them on the bullshit application of their regulations. Single mom with two boys on a teacher’s salary and she didn’t have the time or money to argue with them.

    The property had several old sheds scattered around when we moved there but we tore them down as they were all rotted and falling apart.


  • It’s a shed in the middle of nowhere. What fire code could it possibly be breaking that all the other structures out there aren’t also already breaking? Good lord have you never lived outside of a city?

    It’s a big empty field in the middle of 15 acres of woods. Building a shed next to the garden ain’t gonna hurt anyone any more or less than the house itself or any of the neighbors many sheds and structures built right into the woods on their private property all up and down that road.

    And what does empathy have to do with anything? I’m not going to tell my neighbors what they can and cannot do on their land. If their kid died building a bad tree house that does suck for that kid and the family, but it is not my or your place to tell them what they can and cannot do on their land. Kids die all the time riding dirtbikes and quads on private property. Should we outlaw that too because it might end badly?

    I prefer leaving people alone to do what they want and I want to be left alone to do what I want. I do not understand why yall are so eager to jump to restrictions and happily crawling under a boot.


  • That’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. So because it might make his classmates sad if he dies he’s not allowed to do what he wants on his parents property with his parents permission?

    Sounds like some HOA bullshit.

    If I’m on my land I’m gonna do whatever I want. I’ll get drunk and do donuts on my lawn. Maybe I’ll set off 10 pounds of tannerite in my backyard because that’s what people do in the middle of nowhere.

    I understand that if anything I do on my property somehow ends up effecting others then I can be held liable, but assuming it doesn’t everyone needs to fuck off.

    Should my mom not have allowed me to practice my drums in the barn because the audio was escaping the property and the neighbors could hear faint drumming in the middle of the day sometimes?


  • California. Sierra Nevada mountains in the middle of nowhere. She contacted the county to let them know she was building some small structures and they said she had to pay of bunch of fees for Ricky tacky bullshit that probably didn’t apply to her. Later she learned that everyone that lives out there just does whatever they want and they never notify the county prior. The entire region operates under the whole “better to ask forgiveness than permission” motto.

    Since she called the county had us harassed by inspectors and police for months growing up. Even got one of our neighbors fined for an illegal structure on his property since they spotted it while driving down the road to our place.

    This was years ago now, but it still really pissed me off.



  • Yes… Because telling my mom she has to pay the county thousands for a new garden shed, wood shed and chicken coop in her backyard (15 acres btw) is really preventing catastrophe for the neighbors that are literally miles away.

    If the regulations can’t be written or upheld in a way that allows for property owners to do their own things on their land then they need to be written in a different way or given exception clauses which they currently do not have.

    Not everyone lives in a suburb where they can see what their neighbors are cooking for dinner every night. If your property is booty cheek to booty cheek with the neighbors house then sure I can see where you’re coming from, but a lot of people have a lot of land far away from others and they are told they can’t do x in the middle of nowhere without paying the government some bullshit fee or they are outright denied.


  • If it’s on private property who gives a shit. If your idiot son wants to build a structurally questionable tree house and the parents don’t do anything about it and he dies that’s on them.

    I totally understand if they are building shit on a property line and it could fall into the neighbors house or something but most of the time I’ve seen regulations used against private property owners they are building simple structures hundreds of feet away from neighbors or the edge of property and the government should have absolutely zero say over those types of things.

    At that point it’s just government overreach and I don’t care for it one bit.





  • I’m a tad older than you, but I also had all my long term relationships come out of prior friendships. Dating is straight up toxic nowadays. Dry one-sided conversations where you feel you’re the only one even making an attempt. Women randomly ghosting you after what seemed like good interactions. Some women who seemed genuinely interested vanished or got hostile when I suggested we split the bill on a first date. Women who’s profiles say they are looking for relationships but when you talk it’s clear they just want to hook up or try and use you as a wallet. Women who agree to dates and cancel when you’re already driving to the restaurant or at the restaurant. Or worse the ones that just don’t even show up or respond despite planning a date.

    It’s just exhausting and sad. At least as an average looking dude with a normal job and life. So many women these days seem to expect to be taken to HELLA fancy restaurants or they get offended when you try and take them to something slightly unusual/unique.

    I deleted all the dating profiles awhile ago and I’ve felt so much better. At this point in my life I’m just gonna do my own thing and if I happen to bump into someone I won’t fight it, but actively attempting to date had pushed me closer to suicide than anything since my deep COVID depression or highschool.

    Best of luck out there man. It’s a shit show for all of us don’t worry.